We throw around the word "choice" everywhere these days. We own our choices, yes we do! If you believe this, then why do you feel guilty or afraid of others feelings surrounding your choices first?
Having choices can scare even the best of us however if your intentions are true and respectful towards others the feelings you should be concerned about are your own. Ask yourself - why do I have the opportunity to have this choice in the first place? Is there something very impactful that could or would happen in my life from the result of this choice? Is that impact positive or negative? Who will benefit from the choice? Will I benefit?
I believe that we feel responsible for everyone's happiness and base much of what we do in our own lives around how others will react to our choices. I also believe that past reactions from others can influence our future choices.
I believe that much of the time others reactions comes from a place within them at that moment. If someone gives you a negative reaction to a choice you have made that has you full of optimism, enthusiasm, happiness and clarity that this is a good choice for you - you can bet it has conjuered up feelings of fear, jealousy, envy and even makes them look at their own self-worth because they are where they are and you are moving forward.
The truth is, their reaction isnt about you at all! It is really about what they are feeling at that given amount about themselves.
The next time someone tells you about something they want to do or are doing and instantly inside you have a "gut reaction" stop yourself from immediatly making a comment and think about why you are reacting this way - how will their decision impact you, why are you feeling what you are, what is your fear for yourself, is there really a fear for the other person?
Lastly, the big question you need to ask yourself is "how will my comment, my reaction impact the other person?" This is the biggie, think of a time when you had an exciting choice to share and someone put it down, gave you all the reasons why you shouldn't do it or ridiculed you for not thinking the consequences through enough - how did you feel? Did it change your mind or did it leave you with the bitter taste of guilt, anxiety or fear surrounding your decision?
Either way - we have a choice to follow our own heart First!
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Tina Dezsi, CEO Power of Women Exchange
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